The Silent Cry

She met her boyfriend when she was 17. He was three years older, and they started going out. He was her first boyfriend. she just thought he was so cool, he’s really good looking. At first he came across as pretty nice towards, sort of protective, looking out for her etc. But it wasn’t long after they got together, jealousy thing started, like he was constantly keeping an eye on her to see if she was cheating on him. He would go crazy every time she talked to a guy at a party and would think she was cheating on him, which she wasn’t. They decided to take their relationship to the level of intimacy just after about a month. She was quite nervous, mainly because her parents were strict and had orthodox thinking and just so scared about them finding it out. Her parents were Indian and quite religious, they didn’t believe in sex before marriage. She wasn’t really ready for being intimate with her boyfriend, as it was her first time and she was really stressed out about it, but she couldn’t help but give up to the demands of her boyfriend. Every time she got physical with boyfriend she felt guilty, and got worried about the fact that her parents would find out about her relationship. The guilt and regret of getting involved physically with her boyfriend and the fact that her parents will find out about it, were the only thoughts that kept crossing her mind constantly. The dominating attitude of her boyfriend towards her was very overpowering, he treated her as if she was his property and he wanted to control everything she did. Ultimately, her relationship started getting toxic. Whenever she tried to argue with him, he’d just get aggressive to an extent that he started mistreating and mishandling her physically. He would grab her by the hand sometimes which used to scare her a lot. Once he saw her talking to a guy in her class and he became so outraged that without even thinking twice he slapped her across the face and pushed her so hard she nearly fell. That was the only time he actually hit her. Most of the time it was all this harassment and criticism. The incident ripped her apart, and sent her to the tunnel of darkness. She became noiseless and voiceless. She lost her friends and she lost her contact with every person she was in touch with. She had nobody to share her thoughts and feelings. Whenever she told him that she had enough and didn’t wanted to see him anymore, he would threaten her with dire consequences to leak her sensitive photos and to tell her parents about the, intimacy and that she had smoked drugs with him. This went on for nearly three years. She couldn’t take it anymore and finally decided to breakup with him she just had enough and finally decided to break up with him because she knew she wasn’t able to handle the pain and pressure anymore and simply wanted to get rid of him for good. On her way to the school, he grabbed her. They were screaming at each other on the streets, he took a hold of her arms, saying if she leave him, he would disclose everything to her parents. But she didn’t care and broke up with him When she get home, she just walk in and burst into tears in front of her mother. She just blurted out everything. Her mother was pretty shocked. It took a while for her parents to calm down but they finally understood the situation and supported her by all means. she cried with relief, the relief of having finally told someone. One night, the next week he arrived at the front door again but her dad didn’t let him in. Her parents decided to call the police. The policewoman was quite nice as she understood the situation and acted accordingly by taking her boyfriend into custody. Finally she was out of this mess and felt happier and stronger from before as she had the support and love of her family and her friends who were there to look after her. MORAL If you know someone who was being abused, try to talk to them about it. Don’t feel ashamed. it’s not their fault if, they are trapped in a situation like that, if you feel like you are able to, then get them out of it as soon as you can, because the abuse just wears them down. Stop hoping for the change, be the change. Be cautious while dealing with such kind of people and always prefer taking help of a police, cause you will never know the real intentions of the person you are dealing with and things might get out of your hand. Things will get better once you are out